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Long Distance Love Affair

Wifespeaks: Chika Tuesday

Been there, done that.

I left a rather successful career in the Philippines, office furniture and all, in order to live with my husband overseas. His job offer was too good to pass up, and it would really help us jump-start the finances of our young family considerably. The decision to accept it, really, was hubby’s because if it were all up to me, I’d rather stay in Pinas (my comfort zone) as a complete family and make-do with my meager salary.

However, our final decision was: to let him leave, but only if we leave with him also.

First of all, married people are supposed to be together – through thick and thin, hard times and good, here, there, or wherever. Besides, we are lucky that we were given the option to leave as a family, which some overseas workers don’t have the luxury of.

Secondly, we have a daughter who deserves to grow up right before her father’s eyes. I’ve seen what happens to families left behind by OFWs – I believe that, remittances (or money, for that matter) will never replace good parenting. For this omission, we pay a greater price, and I do not want to pay.

Thirdly, leaving behind everything that we are used to, opens us up for new challenges. Hubby will improve his professional skills (and even be well-compensated fo it), my daughter will grow up learning from a culture so different from her own, and I will develop survival skills (ehem, domestic skills) which I would never have learned had I not left my comfort zone.

For us, it really has been a win-win situation. I wish that everyone will be as lucky as we are – that we were able to leave to seek greener pastures, and yet live together as a family.

The Distance Factor

Wifespeaks: Memoir Monday

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Months before my husband and I were to be married, we endured a period of time when we nurtured our relationship long-distance – it was a necessary evil due to his line of work. However, much like the picture above, his absence in my life was like a huge empty canyon – like a garden without flowers, like an uncolored coloring book, like Mp3 players without music, like a heart without a home.

Since then, no distance, not even canyons such as these could ever separate us.

10 Things You’d Bring To A Deserted Island

It’s been a while since I’ve done my Tuesday list. I’ve been sooo busy! What I would give to be stranded on a deserted island right now so that I could get some rest, haha! Anyway, these are what I would bring:

1. A Lighter
Fire! Aside from the fact that I’d want something to signal any passing rescue ship at night, as well as to keep me warm, I don’t think I could eat raw fish (and I don’t mean sushi).

2. Blanket
I can live without a pillow, but I can’t live without a blanket.

3. Toilet paper, haha!
I’m really not asking for a total bathroom complete with porcelain tiles, all I ask is a little bit of civilization. I’ll only use the leaves if and when my TP runs out. :D

4. A Knife
An all-purpose one.

5. A Bikini
Since this will probably be the only time I could wear one without being too self-conscious, haha!

6. A cellphone
There’s really no excuse not to have cellphone reception anywhere. A solar powered cellphone is even better (if there is one).

7. Books
All the books on my nightstand that I’ve always wanted to read but have never had the chance.

8. Drinking Water
Don’t trust me to harvest rainwater or to distill sea water. I don’t know how!

9. A Volleyball
According to a certain movie, Wilson could be a great friend. :)

10. A hot guy
And that would be my husband. :)

The Culture Factor

Wifespeaks: Memoir Monday

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Mahjong. It’s a game that takes its origins from a foreign culture but, since then, have been happily assimilated in our pinoy culture. Pinagpupuyatan pa!

It all starts with various tiles, enthusiastically mixed together, formed into straight rows by hopeful hands, and dealt. It takes a lot of patience, luck, and skill (including pagkakapa, if you’re that skilled) to set the tiles together to find the perfect pattern.

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The winning hand. The perfect pair.

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Compatibility Qs

Wifespeaks: Chika Tuesday

He says, she says:

1. When watching television, custody of the remote controls belongs to:
a. the husband
b. the wife
c. whoever turned on the TV
d. whoever is stronger
e. whoever can find it underneath the cushions

He says: a. husband (of course!)
She says: b. wife (of course!)

2. Entertaining friends for dinner should be:
a. a catered affair
b. a sit-down meal lovingly prepared in your own kitchen
c. served buffet style
d. pot-luck
e. food brought home in boxes

He says: d. potluck (i’m sure this will be his answer, hehe!)
She says: b. a home-cooked meal lovingly prepared in your own kitchen (i love cooking for my friends)

3. A new car should be selected based on:
a. its purchase price
b. its performance, repair and insurance costs
c. what your business associates are driving
d. its color
e. the arrangement of the cup holders

He says: a. and b. (he doesn’t care about c. or d. although e. could be a huge issue, too. )
She says: b. its performance, repair and insurance costs (i am always willing to pay a little bit more for performance and comfort)

4. The toilet seat should be:
a. down, with the lid closed
b. down, with the lid up
c. left up
d. left up or down, it doesn’t matter
e. up in his bathroom, down in her bathroom

He and She says: d. left up or down, it doesn’t matter (let’s just say we pick our battles.)

5. The proper location for dirty clothes is:
a. the clothes hamper
b. the floor near the clothes hamper
c. the floor in the room where the hamper is located
d. on the furniture in the room where the hamper is located
e. near the bed so you can wear them again the next day

He and She says: a. the clothes hamper (anywhere else is just… eww.)

6. In the middle of summer, it’s best if:
a. the air conditioning is in full blast, at all times
b. the air conditioner is on, sometimes
c. no air conditioning, the electric fan will do
d. no air conditioning and no fan, a pamaypay will do
e. the windows are left open for the breeze to come in

He and She says: b. the air conditioner is on, sometimes (actually, it all rests on ninna. without the a/c on, she can be pretty cranky.)

7. Any home-cooked food is best if:
a. it is eaten immediately after it’s prepared
b. served with candlelight and soft music
c. it’s made the way mom made it
d. it has catsup on it
e. the fire department didn’t have to be called

He says: a. it is eaten immediately after it’s prepared (very predictable)
She says: a. and d. (hehe!)

8. The best way to travel on vacation is:
a. by plane
b. by train
c. by car
d. on foot hiking through the wilderness
e. separately, to different destinations

He and She says: a. and c. (plane if too far, car if within driving distance)

9. Trips to the mall should be made when:
a. there is a specific item that is needed
b. there is a big sale
c. it’s raining and there’s nothing else to do
d. you can’t find what you need at a tag sale
e. you have a new credit card

He and She says: a. b. c. and d. (hubby doesn’t admit it but he loves going to the mall, too, especially when there’s a sale and we have nothing to do)

10. The volume on the stereo should be set:
a. low enough to allow normal conversation
b. loud enough to fully appreciate the quality of the recording
c. low enough so the neighbors don’t complain
d. loud enough to feel the vibrations
e. just low enough to avoid significant structural damage

He and She says: a. and b. (we both love music and we’re not deaf, so a reasonable level of volume is okay)

11. Laundry should be done:
a. twice a week
b. weekly
c. every other week
d. monthly
e. when you run out of clean underwear

He and She says: b. weekly (we do it the laundry ourselves so we try to limit it to once a week, hehe.)

12. My idea of an exotic vacation destination is:
a. Hawaii
b. Thailand
c. Boracay
d. Tagaytay
e. Luneta Baywalk

He and She says: a. b. and c. (what can I say, I am married to a man who understands what “exotic” means)

13. Repainting the living room should be done by:
a. a licensed professional
b. the two of us working in harmony
c. the college kid down the street
d. whoever’s idea it was to repaint the room
e. the time your mother arrives to visit

He says: b. the two of us working in harmony (he has confidence in our abilities)
She says: a. a licensed professional (i don’t!)

14. When buying a new TV, it is important to consider:
a. the size of the room in which it’s located
b. what will fit in the entertainment center
c. your budget
d. how many people you’ll be inviting over for football games
e. whether you can fit it through the door

He and She says: c. your budget (no argument about this)

15. Before having children, you should be together for:
a. at least one year
b. at least two years
c. at least five years
d. at least nine months
e. one quiet, romantic evening

He and She says: e. one quiet, romantic evening (we wanted to have kids asap)

16. Eating in bed is:
a. inappropriate under any circumstances
b. okay if you’re sick and can’t get up
c. acceptable if served on a proper bed tray
d. good to do while watching late night TV
e. an effective way to avoid having sex

He and She says: a. and b. (meals are taken in the dining room only, that’s a rule in our home)

17. The best videos to rent are:
a. the newest releases
b. classic films
c. romantic comedies
d. action dramas
e. found in stores with XXXX on the sign

He says: a. and d. (but will also succumb to c. should i insist too much )
She says: a. b. c. and d. (anything! movie buff kasi ako!)

18. When one of you feels he or she should lose weight, the other should:
a. insist that their partner is perfect just the way they are
b. be supportive
c. join in the weight-loss program
d. buy him or her a membership in a health club
e. move out until the diet is over

He and She says: b. be supportive (because now its a matter of health for us, kaya we have no choice but to be supportive.)

19. When the female is upset or angry, the male should:
a. be comforting
b. ask what the problem is
c. try to solve the problem
d. tell her to get over it
e. apologize. She’s already decided it’s his fault anyway

He says: e. apologize. She’s already decided it’s his fault anyway (“how true”, my husband would say! )
She says: a. b. c. and e. (haha!)

20. Household chores should be done by:
a. the wife
b. the husband
c. both of them working together
d. the maid
e. the kids, that’s why you had them

He and She says: c. both of them working together (we have no maid so we do it together, as much as his work schedule allows.)

21. When decorating your first home, the furnishings should be:
a. the latest style
b. an eclectic blend of antique and new
c. the best you can afford
d. purchased at tag sales
e. whatever you can swipe from your parents’ homes

He says: d. purchased at tag sales (i’m sure this will be his answer *rolls eyes*)
She says: all of the above (haha!)

22. You should attend a place of worship:
a. weekly
b. monthly
c. on major holidays
d. when your mother’s in town
e. when you find one that serves 1995 Domaine d’Auvenay Criots-Batard-Montrachet for communion

He and She says: a. weekly (this is an imperative in our relationship.)

23. Taking out the garbage is the responsibility of:
a. the husband
b. the wife
c. whoever put the last item in
d. whoever is going out anyway
e. the household staff

He and She says: d. whoever is going out anyway (practically speaking.)

24. My idea of the ideal birthday party is:
a. a romantic dinner for two
b. cake and coffee with a few friends
c. a small gathering with family members
d. a surprise party with everyone I know
e. a celebration that would rival a Presidential inaugural

He says: a. a romantic dinner for two three (my hubby is very low key, and is happy with a special dinner date for us and ninna!
She says: a. b. and c. (depends on where we are and who’s around. i love celebrating my birthday with all the people i love!)

25. If we have an argument we should:
a. kiss and make up before we go to bed
b. sit down and discuss it like two rational people
c. go to separate rooms until we cool off
d. contact a marriage counselor
e. make sure all lethal weapons are out of reach

He and She says: b. and c. (we are two very headstrong people so we have to cool off first before sitting down and discussing the issues.)

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Compatibility and Compromise

Wifespeaks: Memoir Monday

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Po-tey-to. Poh-tah-toh.
To-mey-to. Toh-mah-to.

For hubby and I, its simple: patatas and kamatis.

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10 Favorite Things To Do During “Me” Time

More 10 on Tuesdays (on a Thursday, haha!). Here are the ten things I’d like to do on my downtime.

1. Watch Movies
Movie marathons, yey! I can go through six movies in a day without throwing up, haha! Seriously, I love movies so I make it a point to watch as many as I can when I have the time.

2. Read
Same with movies, I love books! There’s nothing more relaxing than curling up with a great book.

3. Spa Pedicure
Some girls prefer to do this by themselves. Me? No. I have to go to the salon for this. Aside from the fact that my flabby tummy prevents me from reaching my toes, I just love the feeling of being pampered down there (my feet, I mean).

4. Sleep
Self explanatory. Can’t get enough of it.

5. Surf the Blog World
I haven’t been doing this in a while, though, but I do love bloghopping! I’m chismosa by nature so I have this need to know what’s going on in the world. Must do this again soon!

6. A Long Hot Soak In The Tub
I love running a hot bath, so hot that I could almost trip the fire alarm systems, hehe! And then, I love feeling all the aches and pains of my old bones cool down and wash away with the water.

7. Watch Games Shows
I love game shows, especially those that deal in trivia. But if I can’t find a good game show, I make do with a good reality show – ok fine, its a guilty pleasure of mine. :)

8. Go To The Mall
For the exercise. *wink*

9. Update My Blogs
Especially my personal blogs. I’ve been so busy that I’ve sort of neglected them. I hope the universe will give me a whole week of “me” time. :D

10. Find Something Good To Eat
Mind you, not “cook” but “find”. :) I’m already in the kitchen most of the time so, if I had my way, I would hunt down yummy food items everywhere else – in the grocery store, at the food court in the mall, at some of the finer bakeries and restaurants in my area, somewhere! And then happily do #8. :D

10 Celebrities You Are Tired Of

Ranting, are we? Ok then, these are the celebrities that I’d rather not hear any more of.

1. Amy Winehouse
Stop already.

2. That HipHop Guy With A Huge Wall Clock Around His Neck
Whassisname?

3. Denise Richards
I don’t know. She just comes across as… desperate.

4. Lindsay Lohan
She looks so wasted for a girl her age. I guess she’s entitled to live her life to the fullest but, I don’t think that mindset should have included overdosing on alcohol, ma huang, and fame. Sad.

5. Lindsay Lohan’s Mom
The ultimate stage mom. Whatever is happening the daughter now, we can directly attribute to the parents. That’s what I think.

6. David Hasselhoff
Like Paula Abdul, he is such a hassle to watch.

7. Stephen Baldwin
I’m tired of seeing him in every reality show he can weasel his way into. He has to learn to face the fact that he’s not as good-looking as his brothers.

8 and 9. Jon and Kate Gosselin
I was one of the people who was inspired by them. Now, I am just so disgusted at how immaturely they have handled this situation. If they deserved all of their good fortune before, they don’t deserve them now.

10. Octomom
Is she even a celebrity?? All she did was show to the world how crazy some people can be. Poor poor kids. I really am praying that something good comes out of all of this.

The In-Law Factor

Wifespeaks: Memoir Monday

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Ninna blowing torotots with Lolo Tatay, while Lola Nanay looks on.

It’s true, you can’t choose who your parents will be. However, when it comes to parents-in-law, they can either be the deal-makers or the deal-breakers in any decision to get married.

In my case, though, if God gave me a million people to choose from, any couple at all – in a heartbeat – I would still choose them to be my Ninna’s grandparents.

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The Serengeti

Not the real thing but close enough. :)

One of our favorite attractions at Busch Gardens in Tampa, FL is riding the Serengeti Express. We were there (yet again) last weekend thanks to our annual pass, hehe! :) We were supposed to go to Orlando, also to check out the Westgate properties that we’ve heard of so much about, but hubby had to work so he just dropped us off at Busch Gardens – our default hang-out. :)

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The Serengeti Express runs the length of the entire theme park and offers a wonderful break from the heat of the sun as well as if you want a nice rest from walking around too much.

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Case in point. My tired little wanderer.

What makes the Serengeti Express special, is that it chugs along the Serengeti Plain – a simulated safari that Busch Gardens is famous for.

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With the train running at a leisurely pace, Ninna and I get to see a lot of cute animals in their “almost” natural habitat.

deer
This horned animal (I forgot what it’s called).

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A giraffe.

rhino
A white rhino behind a tree.

zebra
A grazing zebra.

flamingos
And Ninna’s personal favorite, the flamingos.

Now that its the summer break, I sometimes have trouble thinking of activities to keep my daughter busy. Going to Busch Gardens is my sure bet. Not only does she get to enjoy riding on the rides, playing at the water park, and walking around the zoo-ish environment, she also gets to learn about the animals and has a lot fun doing so in the process. :)

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More weekend snapshots HERE.

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