Tagged [Aggie Wants To Know #1]
I was invited by sis Aggie to join a cute Q&A game a while back. Unfortunately, I got so busy with the move and all (not to mention relying on my neighbor’s unreliable wifi, hehe) that I wasn’t able to catch up with all of the tags being sent my way, including this one.
Actually, Aggie’s Topic #2 is already out, but I still want to do #1 because it’s a discussion that’s so near to my heart. I’ll do #2, too, syempre! Within the week, pramis!
Anyway, so Aggie started this weekly meme wherein she asks a question about something that she wants to know. Thus…
Here goes…
Topic No. 1: Life After the Wedding - the Married Life.
One of the first topics we discussed in WifeSpeaks (which I am a member of) was: what is the difference between now that you are married compared to when you were still single, and did marriage really change you and your husband in some ways.
I went back to my entry for that topic and, re-reading it, I feel that everything I wrote still holds true. My piece was pretty long and, short of re-posting the whole thing here, bisitahin niyo na lang, hehe!
And if that discourse of mine isn’t long enough, lemme add a few more thoughts, hehe.
Whoever said that marriage is just an extension of being bf/gf has it wrong. There’s a deeper sense of commitment once you enter that binding relationship with your spouse. Aggie got it right when she said that talking about marriage as a serious matter because marriage is indeed a serious matter.
Yes, like bf/gf days, nakakakilig pa rin especially if the spice in the marriage is kept alive tapos you now have this license to cuddle with your hubby in front of your own parents (or his), yippee! Haha! However, more than that, there’s a sense of responsibility that comes with it which spells the huge difference between then and now.
Romance? Of course! But no longer that spur-of-the-moment candlelit dinner at that highly Zagat-rated restaurant because (unlike the richy-riche kids out there) the tip is easily a huge chunk of our car payment.
Hot little quickies on the kitchen table? Sure, if we wanted our daughter to get scarred for life, hehe.
No longer being able to check out the super deep dimples on that other guy guy’s cheeks, or his firm, graspable butt? Not exactly, pwede pa rin naman mag-look pero no touch! Haha!
Sacrificing careers, ambitions, and stilletos for the sake of your family’s welfare, well yes. Although, for me, I can’t see how I could call it a sacrifice when I actually found my “calling” in the process.
If I could hammer something into my daughter’s head that she could hold for her entire lifetime, it would be the sanctity of marriage and the responsibility that comes with it. I would like her to be able to take marriage seriously, truly find a man who will love and respect her, give her the perfect balance of romance and responsibility, and someone whom she can make sacrifices for, too. Because marriage changes one’s life, no kidding, and having the best partner makes all the changes almost seamless and definitely worth it.
MrsWorkingGirl :: Jul.09.2008 :: Aggie Wants To Know ::
amen to all of that! akala kasi ng marami, como you’re married, it’s happily ever after. nah uh! sure a big chunk of your life is happy ever after, pero there will always be skirmishes - how few and far between is up to you. one good point that B made when we were having one of our “outs”, is not to be complacent. simply because you both are the best of friends and everything is running smoothly, la-di-da, doesn’t mean your marriage could not possibly derail at anytime. kaya work at it. because it is hard work, marriage. but the rewards…a happy marriage is indeed, worth more than all the treasure in this world.
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Thank you for sharing your insights to AWK: The Married Life. The recap is posted - I hope you read everyone’s entries!
The third installment of the Aggie Wants To Know Series is up! It’s intimidating at first but Im sure you’ll enjoy reading it once you are done! You can do your own thing too - I just want to know how the the first six months of 2008 went for you :) I hope you join!